This week in particular I have had a quite a bit on my mind. My girlfriend and I have been chatting a lot recently about why it’s important to, know your circle. Years past, I never really thought too much about the importance of having a circle, knowing your circle and keeping that circle small and close. I have been blessed with many wonderful friends in my life. I guess you can say that I’ve been fortunate to be surrounded by quite a big circle.
If you have read previous posts, you will know that I understand what it’s like to face a friend’s betrayal. Looking back, I should have paid attention to some warning signs. This is why it’s important to know your circle. I gave someone the benefit of the doubt, when I should have listened and watched some, tell-tale signs. I thought more about their well-being, than my own, which was my biggest mistake.
Sometimes I often wonder what’s worse, betrayal by a spouse or betrayal by a friend. This may be strange to admit, but I honestly think the latter of the two is worse. Why? Well, from as long as I can remember, I have always had a best girlfriend. To this day, I even remember my very first best friend from kindergarten and I’m happy to say, that I am still in touch with her. It’s true, you really learn at a young age the importance of friendship and what it takes to be a friend and have a friend. It’s one of the first lessons in life and also one of the most important.
This year is the first year that my daughter Reese has really discovered her, best friend while in her four-year-old preschool class. In fact, she came home crying the other day because she thought her friend was moving. Then she asked, “But mommy, I’m going to be sad when Hannah and I are not in the same school next year.” They make pictures for each other, hug each other and really look forward to seeing each other. Reese is already learning the value of a friendship and I’m confident that she will recognize the traits it takes to be a friend and have a friend. As her mom, I will make it a point to teach her , why it’s important to know your circle.
What does it mean to, “Know Your Circle”?
- Choose quality over quantity when it comes to friendships.
- Don’t share your personal life with everyone you meet.
- Share your passion, fears and dreams with only those who have proven to be trustworthy.
- Be aware of actions. If someone lies, cheats and steals while you’re watching, they will do the same when you’re not watching.
- Keep the friends that are genuinely happy for you.
- Beware of those friends who are jealous of your successes in life.
- Watch their words. If they talk negatively about others who are not around, they will talk about you, too.
- Look at their past. If they have lost friendships, ended relationships and/or dropped out of something as important as a college education, chance are, they will fail you, too.
- Friends that lift you up during both your positive and negative times, are priceless.
- Don’t force friendships. If it comes naturally and easily, it’s meant to be.