This post may come a bit out of the blue, but if you stop by my blog from time to time, you will realize it’s filled with fashion, style, beauty and well, a little inspiration. And when I say inspiration, I’m talking about, some words of wisdom, inspiring quotes, life lessons and posts that make us think, smile and learn from. This particular post is about something we’ve all heard, but many refuse to actually hear. No, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Period.
When You Start Seeing Weeds Pop Up, Seek A Solution
Last night I found out that another friend of mine is divorced as a result of infidelity. In fact, 3 sets of friends (including myself) from a babysitting group we were all part of are now divorced. Coincidentally with all those particular divorces, the men decided to break their vows and family unit. They thought the grass was greener. These people were too busy admiring others from a distance, instead of admiring and appreciating the one who was right in front of them.
What is wrong with people these days and why has marriage become so disposable? I’m finding myself asking this question day in and day out. It’s such a sad reality and I do think it comes down to people getting bored and thinking, “Hmm, I wonder if there is something better out there?” The answer is simple, The grass isn’t always greener on the other side people!
Love The One You’re With
Have you ever heard of staying true to your roots and nurturing the life you have? Do you really think the new “grass” is incapable of getting weeds? Believe me, people change, life changes and everything in life requires a little TLC every now and then. If you see your relationship in trouble or getting stale, schedule some more date nights and change things up. Think back to the time when the chemistry was strong and you were drawn to each other. Get back to the place when you knew you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. When times get tough in a relationship, it’s not an excuse to move on to something you think may be better. Truth be told, you’re actually exchanging one problem that can be fixed, for an endless amount of problems for years to come.
My parents have been married for over 40 years and believe me, they struggled many of those years. But, to this day, they still enjoy each other, they still hold hands from time to time and they still kiss each other goodnight. Sure, there are times they probably wanted to throw it all away, but they didn’t. They stuck it out and are together to watch their children and grandchildren grow. No matter what anyone says, once you divorce, that family “unit” ends.
So, if you find yourself ever saying, “Do you think anyone else has what we have?”, remember those words when times get tough. Remember to nurture your own surroundings, instead of thinking the grass somewhere else is greener. Trust me, it never is.