Life speed bumps can make us feel crippled. But, focusing on the blessings, like your children, the good people in your life and embracing each and every moment, you can become stronger through it. I promise. My little girl is going to be dancing in her first dance recital this weekend. I took this picture quickly during her dance class yesterday and it just spoke to me. They do say a picture is worth a 1000 words, and for some reason, this picture spoke volumes to me.
My little Reese was an unexpected surprise. HUGE! And, after 3 boys, I never imagined that I would have another baby, never mind, a little girl. I would pass other little girls in their dance clothes and think to myself, “I will never get to experience ballet recitals, mom/daughter outings, dress up” and all the other fun things we typically think of when we think of having a daughter.
I have said it before and I will say it over and over again, Reese was an unexpected blessing. She carries every trait I would have handpicked for a little girl. She’s sweet, outgoing, strong-willed, loving, caring, playful, girlie, confident and assertive. She loves to dance and sing. She’s silly and stubborn. She’s truly my angel. And what I thought of as a bump in the road at the time, is actually one of my greatest joys today. A true angel.
I know first hand about life speed bumps I know family and friends who have also hit some pretty hefty speed bumps along the way. In fact, doesn’t everyone hit a bump or two during life. I promise, everyone does. You may not hear about them, but we all go through some unexpected things in life that turn our life upside down. And, when you are in the midst of it, it’s hard to see any light through the darkness of pain.
But, with each obstacle, I have definitely learned that life does go on. It may not be the same as it was before. And, it may take a little time to realize the good that came out of the hardship. I often need to remind myself of these lessons I’ve learned to help with those unexpected speed bumps. I think it’s a great list (if I do say so myself). And, it may even be the one that is, “refrigerator worthy”. Keeping the list in view may help with falling into slumps.
Tips For Getting Over Life’s Speed Bumps:
1. Allow yourself to grieve, cry and embrace, “the speed bump”. Open yourself up to those raw feelings.
2. Keep moving forward.
3. Start a plan of action in your head or on paper. Jot down your new goals.
4. Keep moving forward.
5. Turn to people who truly care about you.
6. Keep moving forward.
7. Exercise daily. Even if it’s just a walk around the block …
8. Keep moving forward.
9. Start a new hobby or nurture a talent or interest you have.
10. Keep moving forward.
11. Let go of people who hinder your happiness in any way.
12. Keep moving forward.
13. Start reading an inspirational book. I recommend, “Broken Open” by Elizabeth Vesser.
14. Keep moving forward.
15 . Allow yourself to cry every now and then. But, don’t allow yourself to fall into self-pity for too long.
16. Keep moving forward.
17. Rent an inspirational movie and watch it alone. I love, Eat, Pray, Love, & Under The Tuscan Sun.
18. Keep moving forward.
19. Lean on friends and family. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
20. Keep moving forward.
21. Don’t let something or someone who has hurt you, bring out the worst in you.
22. Keep moving forward.
23. Stay active. Being still for too long and doing nothing, leads to unhealthy thinking. (believe me, I know)
24. Keep moving forward.
25. Keep thoughts under control. Over thinking tends to lead to negative thinking. And, like Gremlins, negative thoughts multiply.
25. Keep moving forward.
25. Live in today. Forget about the past. Don’t worry about the future. (something I struggle with)
26. Keep moving forward.
27. Make any changes necessary to make your life better and easier.
28. Keep moving forward.
29. Don’t resist change. If you’ve hit the bump, the change has already started. Embrace it the best you can.
30. Keep moving forward.
31. Stop thinking of “what ifs” and “If only”.
32. Accept what’s out of your control (another thing I struggle with).
33. Keep moving forward.
34. Be honest with yourself and the people around you.
35. Keep moving forward.
36. Always remember, “Life goes on and things will get better”.
37. Keep moving forward.
38. Take control of your life, your thoughts, your vision and your attitude.
39. Keep moving forward.
40. When things seem overwhelming, do something fun and productive. Again, don’t over think.
41. Keep moving forward.